China Rose

Why are men so easily deceived?

It seems that men always give females chances over and over again when the result will always be the same. A girl who is easily swayed to move on to the next person after having her fill with the current guy will always be easily swayed UNLESS the right man comes along and ties her down. A girl who hits on someone the first minute she starts speaking to him will always do that UNLESS that person tells her to stop. The fact that the people who go “oh she’s very nice though” and don’t mind the fact that she is hitting on everyone is disturbing, especially since those are the people who previously said “I wish she would stop doing that”. The excuses I get for these change in opinions have always been “they’re adults, they can decide for themselves”. Yes, adults can decide for themselves. But when this happens over and over, shouldn’t someone put a stop and, you know, point it out for once? Even adults should have some delicacy when it comes to love and relationships. I find the people who can’t even treat a relationship seriously by cheating and flirting with others the most childish people - far from adults.

I really am all for giving people chances. I’ve given this specific person yet ANOTHER chance after I said I wouldn’t because I didn’t want things to be awkward, and I truly thought she had changed the way she treated relationships. Yet the day after I learn that she has been hitting on multiple people and declaring her (serious) love to people other than her boyfriend, she breaks up for “real life issues”…and then moves on to publicly advertising her love for a new person. I’m ashamed that what would have been a perfectly legitimate reason for a breakup has been smeared by the fact that it was to hide up something else. Maybe she was truly sincere when she said that her problems in real life were the reasons why she needed to break up, I’ll give her that. But the fact that she used it as an opportunity to quickly move onto the next person sickens me. If real life was the reason why she needed a break from relationships, then moving onto the next person disproves that reason.

Even an inexperienced person like me can see when someone is being cheated in a relationship. It’s not that hard to tell in this case, because it’s made very public to everyone but the person being cheated. I’m truly more bothered by the fact that she tells multiple people that they are her “one true love” while she is dating someone that is “her one true love”, than by the fact that she switches to a new person the day she breaks up with someone. I’m disturbed by the fact that everyone is against her flirting, yet does nothing and even encourages it.

All I have to say is that if this happens yet again, I -will- be the first one laughing and going “I told you so.” Yes, I know that’s utterly cruel and bitchy of me. I’ll give her this one last chance because I really do want to believe that she can change, but I have no more sympathy for people who don’t even try to properly warn and protect their friends from being tricked and duped. I agree that they should be allowed to make their own choices about these matters 100%, but not even properly giving them knowledge and allowing them to go make their choices blindly is something I must disagree with.